Venus Retrograde: So Valuable!
Venus rules beauty, aesthetics, relationships, values, resources and money. It’s generally not recommended to begin anything *NEW* that pertains to Venus’ rulership. When the Goddess moves backwards in the heavens, nothing in her domain moves forward.
“As above so below.”
(Of course we all have free will; if you want to go ahead and make a big purchase, you can. Just the same, if you want to plant flowers in the snow, you can. It’s just that the timing isn’t on your side.)
Beauty and Aesthetics: This is not the best time to dramatically change your appearance. Don’t chop your long hair into a pixie on a whim. You might later regret that you didn’t consider your choice more thoroughly. This is because during a Venus retrograde, everything is going to look beautiful and more appealing. We just aren’t thinking as clearly. The same goes for tattoos and cosmetic surgery, for obvious reasons. Use the retrograde period to meditate on the idea and if it still sticks come September, go forth! As a hairstylist, I expect that I’ll have to overemphasize the risks of my client’s bold ideas. I would hate for them to find that their new hairstyle doesn’t work for them after all.
Big Purchases: This is also not the best time to go on a giant shopping spree. We are enamored by everything we see during this time. If you see something that you simply can’t pass up, keep the tags on. Just in case. Venus rules luxury items. This doesn’t mean that you can’t buy anything at all! Just beware of the big price tags. The reason being is that often during this time, prices are a bit inflated. You may later realize that you paid way too much for something, that it’s cheaply made or that it becomes a money pit. You may also later decide that the expensive, stunning dress that you bought is now hideous.
Investments: When you make a big investment in something that isn’t paid off in one day, you are creating a business relationship with a bank, the company you are purchasing from and perhaps another individual. This is a triple “no-no” as Venus rules relationships and money. It’s best to wait until after the retrograde to purchase a home or vehicle, or to invest with a friend. Use this time to plan and research. If you decide that you can’t wait, you may come to find that your big purchase turns into a bigger headache than it’s worth. Either the car goes on sale soon after you bought it, or your car becomes a lemon.
But is it a good time to sell your house? It sure is. But you would still have to find another place to live, which rehashes the issues stated above. It’s best to wait until September.
Resources: We’ve already discussed a bit about spending, but the biggest resource we have is our energy. Where are we distributing our energy and with whom? This is a great time to evaluate how we allocate ourselves in the world. Perhaps you have an affiliation that’s become outworn or even draining. In life, we hope to get back what we give in. If the exchange of energy is disproportionate, then we need to reconsider how much we are giving.
“Relationships are for a reason, a season or a lifetime”
Also, since we are talking about Venus, it’s worth considering if we are giving enough of our time to things that we love. Often we end up choosing the option that pleases others. Venus conjoins Jupiter in Leo 3 times this year! It’s important that we connect with our passions enough to feel like we are shining in the world.
Relationships: This is NOT the best time to begin a new relationship. Generally, we want to feel like we are moving forward in our relationships. But with Venus appearing to move backward in our sky, this is about reviewing our current relationships.
Any relationship takes work. We are all growing. And we don’t always grow together. Whether the relationship is new or old, this is a good time to express any feelings of dissatisfaction. See if there is a compromise that you two can make that would improve the dynamic for everyone. It may just take a few minor adjustments.
Also ask yourself, “does my end of the compromise fit with my value system, or have I already overextended myself?” Conversely, you may also become aware of things you could improve on your end of your relationships.
If you end the relationship during the retrograde, it may come back to life later on. So if you really want this person out of your life for good, wait until the end of the retrograde to sever ties.
Expect to hear from a past lover. Venus retrograde doesn’t promise that they will stick around, but she does promise closure one way or another. “Oh, that’s why that didn’t work out…” If you are single, it might be fun to reconnect with an old flame; especially since it’s not the best time to begin a new relationship.
However, if you do meet someone that piques your interest, what you’ll want to do is just take things slow. Keep it very casual. Use this time to make sure that this person fits your set of values. Sometimes Venus retrograde will invite you to overlook your deal-breakers. Beware of getting wrapped up in a fairytale that this might be “the one,” and then several months later you’ll wonder, “What was I thinking!?”
So even if your past lovers don’t call you, they can at least come to mind. There is a reason for this. We are reflecting on our growth. We grow through intimate experiences with others. We are reminded of our lessons so we don’t make the same mistakes twice.
It’s a good time to review what went wrong in our past relationships, and to face any unresolved feelings. You may realize that although the experience was unpleasant, that it taught you a lot, and that it narrowed in your checklist for what you value in another person. Look at things in a new light so that you may bring healing to your heart. Try to find understanding. What was the “reason or season” truly about? Make peace with the past.
But don’t call off the wedding if you have already planned it! August is a beautiful time of year for weddings. It doesn’t mean that a marriage is doomed when commenced under a Venus retrograde. All it means is that the heart is telling you what to do, and Mercurial mind is taking a backseat. It’s wonderful to listen to your heart! But your heart might be overlooking a few things, telling you, “everything will be perfect,” but then you come to realize that one person wants a life in the city and another person thought that you two would escape to the country to settle down. These issues aren’t deal-breakers, but they are hurdles. During a Venus retrograde, the hurdles are invisible until afterwards.
Values: To sum up all of the above: What are our values? What do we value in any type of relationship? What is important to us?
The Relationship of Venus and Mars:
Venus and Mars are closely related. Venus is the goddess of love and war, while Mars is the warrior. The allegory is simple: If Venus is what we love and what we value, she is also responsible for what we dislike, or even hate. It’s these strong feelings of love and hate that drive us into war.
Without these Venusian preferences, Mars would have no direction. Mars takes action because of Venus. We do what we love. Or even if we are working at a job that is only tolerable, it’s because we still put value on keeping ourselves afloat and therefore, the job is valuable…
What makes this Venus retrograde unique is that she makes 3 conjunctions to Jupiter (July 1st, august 4th, October 25th, 2015) and to Mars (Feb 21st, September 1st, and November 2nd, 2015). Mars is what drives us to work hard. Sometimes we get so caught up in the work that we forget why we are doing it. Venus retrograde is a great time to get back in touch with why we are invested. Venus is the why behind what we do (Mars).
And with Venus travelling so closely to Jupiter, we are reminded to play, to rediscover the joyous side of our Venus. Jupiter is inviting us to shine more! If the job is only tolerable, open the door to search for something more aligned with your essence.
This retrograde also has to do with HEART HEALTH. Physically and spiritually. Leo rules the heart and creative self-expression; Virgo rules intestines, diet, and discernment. We must follow our heart’s desire, but still be practical about it. Virgo wants us to have a plan. Don’t just quit your job and move to a commune on a whim. Do your research and consider the details. When it comes to diet, Jupiter wants all the fatty, delectable, indulgences. Virgo has to digest it, so she is asking us to be mindful! Create a balance. Ideally, we can find a love for honoring our health.
Retrogrades allow us to slow down and gain the clarity we need, so that we can adjust our direction. These brief periods of reevaluation are so important on our path.May we all find the courage to connect with our hearts’ true desires in a way that helps us feel more supported in our spiritual and human existence…